The Favour Feud – Is it Worth It?

There’s no denying it, weddings are an expensive business. And with the costs of getting married rising every year, the modern bride is always looking for a way to cut the costs without cutting out the style. One of the most traditional wedding elements has come under the axe recently, and that’s the favours. It’s caused a bit of a divide among brides, some saying they are still a lovely and traditional thing to do, others saying they are just a pointless waste of time. But should you have wedding favours, are they really worth it? We examine both sides of the argument, and leave you to decide for yourself!


Wedding favours were originally a gift given by the bride to acknowledge and thank every friend or family member who shared in her special day. And the original wedding favour wasn’t extortionately expensive either- the bride would give 5 sugared almonds to each guest, wrapped in a delicate and attractive tuille bag or a box. Each almond symbolised a different wish for the couples future: Health, Wealth, happiness, Long Life and Fertility.Now a favour is seen to be something more personal and unique to the couple, and there are all sorts of wonderful new ideas out there – from giving seeds, hot chocolate sticks, smoore’s kits or even Lego bricks. It’s a chance for the couple to get creative in the way they thank their guests, and it’s usually one of the more fun elements to the planning. They don’t have to be expensive either – I know many brides who have given homemade favours on their wedding day – cutting the costs while still keeping this tradition.At the end of the day – it’s a way to say thank you, and this tradition is one that can easily be done on a budget and to a personal level – so there is no need to cut it out completely!Spend Your Money On Something Else!

Sure, it’s traditional, but what’s the point, really? I mean sure, you could make them yourself – but that means spending the day before your wedding wrapping up biscuits or sticking labels to little potted plants for every guest – but what a waste of time! You could be spending that precious time drinking and celebrating with your friends and family, getting your nails done ready for the big day or just watching a movie with your bridesmaids in your pyjamas doing the ‘im getting married in the morning’ dance.

The point is, favours are an element of the day that doesn’t really affect anything. It doesn’t make the day better, and I can’t count the number of weddings I’ve come home from and the favour has sat on the side for a few days before being binned. I always feel a little bit bad – because the bride and groom probably spent a lot of time, money and effort on them – but they’re always useless. With so much else to plan and do – favours are the last thing you should be thinking about.

A Happy Middle Ground?

So is there a happy middle ground in the favour feud? Probably not. Each couple is different, and some might prefer to give lavish favours to every guest while others give nothing. It doesn’t make a huge impact on the day either way, and it’s all down to personal preference. If favours are your bag, I say go for it. But if you’re not fussed, then don’t sweat it and spend the time and money elsewhere.



Wedding favours, mini suitcases. Bride & Groom photos. Farnham House Hotel Wedding Photography by Moore & Moore Photography, Fleet, Hampshire

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